The Coaching Habit — Michael Bungay Stanier
Summary in 15 minutes. Coaching isn't a separate session. It's a way of having everyday conversations, and that means breaking old habits and building new ones. The first four questions start the conversation, draw out what's underneath, uncover the real problem and make the want clear. The last three questions keep you from playing the rescuer, move you from busyness to strategy and turn a conversation into learning. The reading is done. Now spend one week practicing one question a day, until it comes out naturally.
Key ideas of "The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever"
Say Less, Ask More
Coaching isn't a separate session. It's a way of having everyday conversations, and that means breaking old habits and building new ones.
- Why This Book: The author, the background and the big claim
- Three Vicious Circles: Where managers get stuck when they don't coach
- The New Habit Formula: Knowing the questions is easy; asking them is hard
Opening Up and Going Deeper
The first four questions start the conversation, draw out what's underneath, uncover the real problem and make the want clear.
- The Kickstart Question: What's on your mind?
- And What Else?: The three most useful words in the book
- The Focus Question: What's the real challenge here for you?
- The Foundation Question: Wants and the needs beneath them
Ownership, Strategy and Learning
The last three questions keep you from playing the rescuer, move you from busyness to strategy and turn a conversation into learning.
- The Lazy Question: How can I help?
- The Strategic Question: If you're saying yes, what are you saying no to?
- The Learning Question: What was most useful for you?
Take Action
The reading is done. Now spend one week practicing one question a day, until it comes out naturally.
- 7-Day Action Plan: One task a day. Tick it off when done.
- One-Page Cheat Sheet: The whole book at a glance. Save it.
- Final Word: The Question Habit: One moment before the advice
From the free first chapter
Michael Bungay Stanier was born in Australia and lives in Canada. He studied at Oxford as a Rhodes Scholar and later founded Box of Crayons, a company that teaches coaching skills to managers at many organizations. Drawing on that experience, he wrote The Coaching Habit in 2016. It's a short book, but hugely popular with managers.
His core claim: managers know coaching is a good thing. But they picture coaching as long, formal sessions that nobody has time for. Bungay Stanier says coaching can be an everyday conversation of ten minutes or less. There's just one condition: stay curious a little longer before you give advice.
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Common questions
What is "The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever" about?
Coaching isn't a separate session. It's a way of having everyday conversations, and that means breaking old habits and building new ones. The first four questions start the conversation, draw out what's underneath, uncover the real problem and make the want clear. The last three questions keep you from playing the rescuer, move you from busyness to strategy and turn a conversation into learning. The reading is done. Now spend one week practicing one question a day, until it comes out naturally.
What are the key ideas of "The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever"?
Why This Book; Three Vicious Circles; The New Habit Formula; The Kickstart Question; And What Else?; The Focus Question; The Foundation Question; The Lazy Question; The Strategic Question; The Learning Question.
Who wrote "The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever"?
Michael Bungay Stanier.
How long does the Gistbook summary take to read?
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